{"id":7861,"date":"2020-11-02T12:33:18","date_gmt":"2020-11-02T17:33:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/roseninstitute.net\/?p=7861"},"modified":"2020-11-02T12:33:19","modified_gmt":"2020-11-02T17:33:19","slug":"tend-and-befriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/roseninstitute.net\/fi\/tend-and-befriend\/","title":{"rendered":"’Tend and Befriend’ – November 10 @ 10am PT \/ 19h CET"},"content":{"rendered":"

’TEND AND BEFRIEND’<\/strong><\/p>

AN ONLINE GATHERING <\/p>

HOSTED BY THE ROSEN INSTITUTE<\/p>

NOVEMBER 10TH @ 10AM PT \/ 19h CET<\/strong><\/p>

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This gathering is open to all and free to join! Read Kate O’Shea’s inspiration for the gathering below. <\/strong><\/p>

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Recently in a Rosen discussion group, my colleague Alok Srivastava, introduced me to the theory \u201cTend and Befriend\u201d.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Shelley Taylor, Professor of Psychology at UCLA, developed the theory of Tend-and-befriend as an additional\u00a0path to the classic fight, flight, freeze responses to stress. Tend-and-befriend is available in us all but tends to be a more feminine reaction to stress.\u00a0 Until the late 1990s, much of the studies on stress were conducted with male subjects as their hormones do not cycle as widely as females.\u00a0 On further study of mammalian females, it was observed that their reaction to chaos and stress is to tend to the children, make sure they are safe and connect with other females for support.\u00a0 Stress activation increases oxytocin in both males and females but in females oxytocin is enhanced by estrogen while in males,\u00a0 testosterone tends to diminish oxytocin levels. The male response will be more towards the fight and flight or freeze.<\/em><\/p>

I immediately recognized the \u201ctend-and-befriend\u201d response as my usual go-to tool with stress.  My response will also involve cooking for others, a tendency to organize my household, talk with my sisters, check in on my sons and walk with my neighbors. <\/em><\/p>

I also thought of my Rosen Movement class, where I could now notice that connection; moving together and checking in with each other were tending and befriending activities. I brought this notion to my class to see if they recognized this tend and befriend response in themselves.  They did! <\/em><\/p>

More recently in our Rosen Movement class we suggested each of us reach out to someone in our class who has not been able to come during Covid times.  To either call or write to them.  We would do this to connect and reduce each other\u2019s stress.<\/em><\/p>

I wonder as a Rosen Community, how can we continue to \u2018Tend and Befriend\u2019 each other, reach out, connect and help each other through all that wants to disconnect us?<\/em><\/p>

Kate O’Shea<\/em><\/p>

Rosen Institute Board Secretary<\/em><\/p>

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